Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Montessori Preschool

I think I have found the preschool "curriculum" I am going to use with my children. A friend of mine, LeAnna @ Written Windows, used to work in a Montessori preschool and recommend that I look at some of the methods. I was reluctant at first because from what I had read Montessori's methods seemed like unschooling to me. I did though get the book How to Raise an Amazing Child the Montessori Way by Tim Seldin from the library and eventually got around to reading it. Then I found recommended on Cathy Duffy's site, www.cathyduffyreviews.com, Mommy Teach Me and Mommy Teach Me to Read by Barbara Curtis, a Montessori preschool "curriculum" from a Christian perspective.

Basically, with Montessori learning doesn't just occur in a structured classroom type setting with lesson plans and workbooks. Really the Montessori classroom is the world, specificaly the world of the child. Barbara Curtis explains that there are five God-given potentials that each child has. They are the potentials for independance, order, self-control, concentration, and service. Each child also has "sensitive periods" that should be taken advantage of in order for the learning process to be the easiest. Each "sensitive period" only occurs once and after that time ends the learning process is more difficult. The "sensitive periods" consist of movement (0-1), language (0-6), small objects/hand-eye coordination (1-4), order (2-4), music (2-6), toileting (18mo - 3), grace and courtesy (2-6), senses (2-6), writing (3-4), reading (3-5), spatial relationships (4-6), and mathematics (4-6). With the Montessori method many different activities are used to teach and develop the child's potentials while taking advantage of the sensitive periods. Many of these activities can be put together with common items you may have around you house. Other items may need to be purchased or made such as sand paper letters or small pitchers to fit your child's hands. It is also important to create a child-friendly home: pictures at the child's level, books, toys and activities were the child can reach them, a special place for the child to read, etc.

In How to Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way there are tips on making a child-friendly home, sensory activities, activities to build independance and encourage service, exploring the outdoors, learning about other cultures, reading, math, and science all with full color photos. There is also a chapter on "Keeping the Peace." As a Christian, I would use the activities but skip this chapter on discipline and "peace."

Barbara Curtis in Mommy Teach Me! gives instructions for many of the same activities and more. The activities that she explains in her book are what she calls "small beginnings exercises" (which develop the five potentials as well as gross and fine motor skills, sensory discrimination, and hand-eye coordination), manipulatives (cognitive and fine motor skills), imaginative play, math, science, geography, fine arts, and spiritual life. Reading is taught in her book Mommy Teach Me to Read! Barbara Curtis also thoroughly explains how to introduce the activities to your child, as well as gives a list of items needed for each one.

I think that this method of preschool would go along very nicely with Charlotte Mason's style as she advocated the preschool years be spent learning as much about their world in their world (specificaly outdoors) and not in a highly structured "school" setting. This also would work with the classical method since it exposes the child to liturature and prepares them for concentration and critical thinking.

My plan now is to buy Mommy Teach Me! and Mommy Teach Me to Read!, start collecting materials to use, and then after Baby Bear is born, and we are settled in our new house and into our new routine, I can start introducing more of these concepts and activities into our day.

Don't Make Me Count To Three: a Mom's Look at Heart Oriented Discipline - by Ginger Plowman


One day while looking at books on Amazon.com, I came across this book by Ginger Plowman. Being frustrated with the actions of my children and our discipline techniques that didn't seem to be working, I decided to borrow this book from the library (which I like to do with any book if I can before I decide to buy it). I am glad that I did.

The book starts by defining discipline.

"Biblical discipline involves love, the heart, and God's Word. Because God is concerned with the issues of the heart, biblical discipline involves much more than outward behavior. Biblical discipline gets to the heart of the problem." (pg 26)

We have Ted Tripp's book Shepherding a Child's Heart which is an excellent book on heart oriented discipline (I would recommend it as well), but it didn't offer much practical how-to's to a mom of young children like me. That's what I loved the most about Don't Make Me Count To Three, Ginger Plowman gives a lot of practical how-to's and plenty of examples. She walks you through how to develop your skills at probing the heart of your child (even young children. Ginger gives examples of her own daughter at 3 years old), how to train your children to think like Christians, how to use God's Word for reproof and correction, and how to Biblically use the "rod." She also includes sections on how to lead your child to Christ, and how to pray for your child.

Since applying the principles in this book to our own family, I can honestly say that I can see a difference not just in my children but also in myself. I still struggle with consistency, frustration, and at times disciplining in anger; and I can tell you that disciplining in those sinful states is ineffective. I am glad that God is patiently working on me. By His grace I am being molded to be more like Him. That is another point to be made about "Heart-oriented" discipline. In order for the heart of the child to be properly affected, the heart of the parent must right as well.

This is also a great book for Dad to read too. My husband read as far as he could before I had to return it to the library and really apprieciated the practical tips that were given. Not to mention that it is important for both husband and wife to be on the same page when it comes to training children.

I have added this book and it's companion Wise Words for Moms (a guide to heart issues, heart probing questions, and scripture verses to use in discipline) to my every growing book wish list.

Monday, April 6, 2009

Written Windows - book give away

My friend LeAnna has put together an awesome blog totally devoted to reviewing children's books. This is a must see blog for any mom of young children! Currently she is giving away a Dr. Seuss book "Mr. Brown Can Moo Can You?" to one of her readers. Entry ends April 20th. Check it out at Written Windows!

Motherhood Verses to Ponder - Day 4

Proverbs 14:1
"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."

Every wise woman builds her house/family/home. She works to create a home that is safe, strong, secure. By demonstrating the love of Christ and 1 Corinthians 13, she cultivates Godly qualities in her children and encourages her husband. The foolish woman, however, tears her house/family down. She is more concerned about her own "needs" and desires, caught up in the cares of the world that her family slips to the sideline where her children and husband do not get all of their needs met.

Motherhood Verses to Ponder - Day 3

Titus 2:4-5

"4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."

How would the opposite of these verses cause the Word of God to be blasphemed?

Motherhood Verses to Ponder - Day 2

1 Thessalonians 2:7-8

7"But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children:

8So being affectionately desirous of you, we were willing to have imparted unto you, not the gospel of God only, but also our own souls, because ye were dear unto us."

Paul used a picture of motherhood to communicate how he loved the people of Thessalonica: a mother that is gentle, cherishes and is affectionately desirous of her children.

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Kisses from Heaven: Unexpected Blessings

I was shopping with my mother-in-law on Thursday. Though it was late, 9:30pm, we decided to stop at Target on our way home. I wanted her to show me the baby bath tub that she had seen there, so we were in the infant department. As we were looking at the selection of tubs, a woman came up to us. "I know this is weird," she said "but occasionally I like to do this just to help people out." She handed me a $20.00 bill! I was speechless. This was so out of the blue! Such an unexpected blessing, especially with my husband still laid off and needing things for our Baby Bear due in May. ...Kisses from Heaven.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

The Mission of Motherhood - Verses to Ponder

I have been reading "The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child's Heart for Eternity" by Sally Clarkson. Currently I have finished chapter 3. So far it has been a very insightful, encouraging, and challenging book. At the end of each chapter are thought provoking questions with Bible verses. As I have been challenged by these, I thought others too could benefit from studying these verses. (Note the verses are referenced to in the book, but these questions are my own ponderings. To find out what Sally Clarkson has said, you'll have to read the book!)

Psalm 127:1, 3 ~
1
Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.- What is the secret to the success of a Godly family?
3Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

The secret to the success of a godly family is that the parents allow God to design/build their home. How often do we as Christians try to design our families our way? In a way that best suits us? Even in the way that we view children. God views children as a reward, a heritage. We may say the same thing, but is that really how we act from day to day. When the milk is spilled for the 5th time, when the toys are piled 1ft high across the living room floor, when little hands and mouths and clamoring for your attention while you are on the phone, when little voices are asking you to read a book (for the 10th time) when you are working on the computer, when children disrupt plans and cause more work are they really viewed as a blessing and reward, or are they viewed as an annoyance and a hindrance? I know that really hit home to me.