Sunday, September 27, 2009

Encouraging Husbands During Financial Trials


No matter what the pundits and politicians have to say, the economy is a challenge for most of us normal families out here in the real world, and in some parts it seems to be getting even more challenging. As helpers suitable for our husbands, how can we, as godly wives, encourage our men when they are feeling down about their job situations and money issues?...

This is such an excellent post by Kimberly Eddy over At The Well. For most of our five years of marriage we have been living paycheck to paycheck, but finances have become even more of a struggle for us over the past two and a half years. It seems that we barely get back on our feet and "caught up" before the next layoff hits. This year alone My Man has been paid Unemployment more weeks than he has from his job. He was laid off due to weather and lack of work from the end of October till July, and now he will be laid off for all of September while the construction company he works for is in between jobs. But as Kimberly writes, "God is my provider." He has taught us some valuable things through it all. The first is that God is faithful. The second is that Debt KILLS! STAY AWAY FROM IT!!! The third is how not to be attached to things (we had to sell our house). And there is so much more! Like worrying about tomorrow... It seems that this is lesson that God must teach me over and over again. He IS in control, and I just have to trust in Him. My attitude will affect my husband. Kimberly gives some excellent advice as to how we can encourage our husbands during financial trials. Read her post At The Well.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

International Babywearing Week

I love babywearing! I didn't always. When the girls were babies I had a Evenflo Snugglie; but it was so hard to get them in and out, especially if they were sleeping. I did find it useful when RaeRae was a small baby. We lived only a block from the library, so I would put her in the Snugglie and then zip up My Man's winter jacket over the both of us. It wasn't long though before she grew too big for that. I also had a ring sling but it was too big for me (it didn't have a long tail) and it had such thick padding on the rails that the baby seemed to get lost and smothered in it. Needless to say I didn't think very much of babywearing at that time. When I was pregnant with Baby Bear though, I knew that I was going to have to be able to carry him hands free more than I had needed to with the girls. I had some friends who had been able to babywear successfully, so I thought I would do some more research into it. I am SO glad I did! The MUST-Go-To site for finding out more about babywearing is The Babywearer. They have so much information about so many different kinds of baby carriers, pros and cons, how to's, diy tips, and so much more! My most used carrier has been the Wrap Style carrier. Also known as the Moby Wrap. I actually have three of these that I made myself. Two of a brown cotton/polyester blend, light knit fabric, and one of a cotton gauze. The knit is great because it's no-sew, so it's super easy to make! I just took 4 yards and cut it in half length-wise so I would have two carriers. It's also great for small infants and for nursing because you can get a snugger fit. The con of knit is that it does tend to stretch and sag if I carry Ally with it. You also wouldn't want to use a 100% polyester knit... It's way to hot!
Here I am hiking with Baby Bear in what Moby Wrap calls the Lotus Hold. His feet are crossed and tucked up infront of him. It's a great position for babies who are gassy, or like Baby Bear, want to feel more secure but still face forward to see all that's going on. He fell asleep so I tucked his head just inside the part going over my shoulder so his head wouldn't bob all around. Also to make the wrap look more stylish I tied the knot on the side, as you can see, instead of infront or in back. (I wouldn't recommend doing that for all holds though.)
Here's the Baby Bear after he woke up. His feet are still tucked up to his chest, but his arms and head are free to move around.
Here he's a little older and feels safe enough to let his feet dangle.
Here I am using the wrap made from the cotton gauze. It's more light weight than the knit. The cons are that you do have to hem or surge the edges, it's not as stretchy so it's harder to get the right fit for nursing. The knit wrap is my first choice to take shopping. Especially if I'm shopping alone with all three kids! It makes shopping trips much quicker too because I don't have to stop and sit to nurse Baby Bear... I nurse him hands free while I shop! And with the knit wrap it's very modest and discreet.

To find wearing instructions for a wrap style carrier go here to the Moby Wrap website, or here to The Babywearer for links to other sites with instructions.

Though I love the wrap carrier, I found that I sometimes need a carrier that's quick and easy to put on. So I decided to make a Ring Sling. The fabric I used is a medium weight linen. (Simple cotton weave/quilting fabric is not wise to use as it's not made for heavy wear and tear.) The Ring Sling is versatile (although not as versatile as the wrap). Baby Bear's favorite position in the Ring Sling is similar to the Lotus hold in the Wrap carrier, with his feet crossed and tucked up by his chest.
Here I am with the Ring Sling that I made. (Baby Bear was sleeping so I borrowed a baby doll to pose with :-) ) You can find all the information you need to make a ring sling at Jan Andrea's site. Before making your own Ring Sling, PLEASE!!! read the information that she has first! It's important to the safety of your baby that you use the right fabric and rings.

The last type of carrier that I made was a Pouch Sling similar to HotSlings or New Native. I wanted something that would be easy and more "manly" so that My Man could enjoy "wearing" Baby Bear as well. Especially since he travels for work and is gone most of the week. I thought this would give them more bonding opportunity. The instructions are found at Jan Andrea's site
Here is My Man posing with Baby Bear's baby bear (Baby Bear was already sleeping). Honestly though, this carrier hasn't been used much. A Pouch Sling should be custom made to fit the adult wearer, and I'm afraid that I made this one a touch to small. It works, but it's a little snug. For more help in measuring for the right fit watch this video from ZoloWear (I wish I had seen it before making the Pouch). If you are not certain of the amount of fabric you should use add an inch or two. Remember, you can always make it smaller. The other thing that would make this a little nicer is a button to adjust the fit. ZoloWear has video instructions on how to use a Pouch Sling and you can see the advantages of having an adjustable fit (Getting Started video).

So there you have it! I hope this was helpful. Do you have a baby carrier that you enjoy using? I'd love to hear about it and why you enjoy it.

Happy Babywearing!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

New Design

I decided that it was time for a new design. So tell me... What do you think?

Monday, September 21, 2009

Summer days

Ah, the swing

RaeRae's first fish!
"Ally's" first fish

Helping Great Grandma water the grass

Fishing on the dock

Watching Mommy hang out clothes

So sweet

Swinging with Auntie Jen

Peace and quiet when motherhood is stressful

Ah... Peace and quiet! It's a rather odd thing in our house, unless I stay up late or get up extremely early. No, it's not late or early... it's only 8:00pm! Matt decided to set up the tent in the backyard and camp out with the girls tonight. Hope he sleeps well! I know I'm going to enjoy this peace and quiet! I've got my favorite radio station on (abindingradio.com) and my favorite large mug from AtHome America full of Nestle's Rich Chocolate hot cocoa mix with milk. The only things that would make this better are fuzzy slippers, a comfy chair (not the kitchen table chair we currently have at the desk), and pleasant candle burning (I would but the desk is too crowded, but now that I think of it I might have Matt hang a shelf over the desk just for burning candles...).

Ah yes... time to take a breath, to clear my head. It seems things have been so busy and hectic lately. Has it really been or have the kids just been acting up more...? As I logged on to blogger just now and skimmed over the blogs that I follow I came across this encouraging post on At The Well. Motherhood has been rather stressful for me lately. I have a portion of THE MOM SONG by Go Fish as the ringtone on my cell. "If you have a lot of fun, but your work is never done, you're a MOM!" Lately I've been feeling like the work is never done, but I haven't been having much fun. I love my kids dearly; but these last few days I haven't been able to enjoy them. That bothers me. I know that they will not be little for very long. And God gave children to be a blessing, not a curse. I have to say though that the fault does not lie with my children. How can I show true 1 Corinthians 13 love, when I am not meeting regularly with the source of love, Jesus Christ? Obviously when I am trying in my own strength to meet the needs of my family, I am going to fail. It's only when I am leaning on Christ for His strength and letting His love shine through me, that I will have peace and joy and will truly be able to enjoy my kids! It's so easy to let the cares of this world crowd our lives. The cares of home: dishes, laundry, clean toilets, meals. Even the cares of church. Matt and I love being involved in our church. We want our children to grow up learning how and desiring to serve God. Yet even church ministries should not crowd out our children.

Abiding. Abiding in Christ. Drawing from His love, His strength. Being Christ focused. Not world focused, not home focused, not ministry focused. CHRIST focused!